Happy Marriage For Men

2 Key Tips For Pleasing A Woman: Foreplay & Afterplay

2009-09-24T21:35:00.000-07:00

The key to making love to your wife so she'll adore you and get pleasure out of pleasing you is simple: make it about her.

Make the effort to ensure that it's a thrilling experience for her.

Two of the most important tips for pleasing a woman are:

1) Foreplay
2) Afterplay.

I once heard a quote: “A man who engages in foreplay understands sex. A man who engages in afterplay understands love.”

If you want a happy wife and thereby a happy marriage then, you need to understand both sex and love. A wife needs (and deserves) high quality of both.

As for foreplay, it should be your default rule. It doesn’t mean that a woman never wants to skip quickly to sex. Quite the contrary. Women are far more sexual than men often imagine and tend to be very eager for sex if their man has built up their desire for him.

Plan ahead sometimes. Start the seduction outside the bedroom. Tell her what you want to do to her. Tell her what she does to you. Tell her what it'll be like.

Why? Because for her, love-making isn't just about the sex. Yes, a woman wants to ravaged and taken sometimes. But she also wants to be seduced.

Seduce her before you even get to the bedroom.

Make it about her.

And here's the cool part: if your focus is pleasing her, then her focus will be pleasing you.

So when to engage in foreplay and when to go straight for sex? You have two guidelines for that:

1) Make it about her. If you're not sure what I mean, make sure you've read The Key to Making Love.
2) Pay attention! If you're not sure what I mean, make sure you've read Sexually Pleasing a Woman.

As for afterplay, it’s really not that hard - don’t freak out! Just gently kiss her for a while and hold her for even longer. This will make her feel loved on an emotional level, not just desired on a physical level. Both are necessary.

If your afterplay heightens her desire, then it may end up being foreplay, instead. All the better…unless you’re exhausted at that point. Then I can’t help you. Sorry.

I have a saying that I tell husbands, “Treat your woman like a queen. But be her king, not her subject (or another queen).” Foreplay can help make you her king. Afterplay will help you make her feel like a queen.

Husbands, Do You Know The Different Couples Making Love Positions And Why They Matter?

2009-09-24T21:23:00.000-07:00

First, why bother with different couples making love positions?

Well one intrinsic benefit to different positions is variety and Intrigue.

If you're not clear on the role that Intrigue plays in a happy marriage, make sure you sign up for my free "Magnetism Method" course now and check out Lesson #4: The Magnetism Method
But, beyond the advantage of Intrigue, there are other advantages that each position can provide, including:

-Maneuverability: such as ease of thrusting
-Accessibility: your ability to see and touch parts of your wife's body
-Comfort
-Stimulation: which of your wife's orgasmic areas you can reach
-Emotional connection

If you want full detail of the relevance of each of these factors, you can check out my Recommended Marriage Resources page or get this book on how to be a Maestro Lover and read it, especially Chapters 10 & 11 of Book 3 (pp. 112-132).

So what are the different couples making love positions, anyway?

Well, you may find some resources listing 40 or 50 or 100, or even 365 couples making love positions, but...

You can reduce most positions to four fundamental positions:

1. Man on top (often called Missionary)
2. Woman on top (often called Cowgirl)
3. Rear entry (sometimes called Doggie-style, not a name I care for)
4. Side-by-side

These have many variations.

Now, remember I mentioned the advantages that different couples love making positions have? Well, I want to focus on just one of the factors, because I don't want to make this article too long.

That factor is: Stimulation.

Certain positions will allow you to stimulate her different orgasm zones better than others. I want you to keep those different zones in mind when applying different couples making love positions.

So what are those different orgasm zones, anyway?

Pay attention! Because here is where I give you the keys to the kingdom.

The 3 primary orgasm zones for a woman are:

1. The clitoris
2. The G-spot
3. The deep spot

The clitoris is the little knob above her vaginal opening, which lies underneath the clitoral hood, where the two vaginal lips (or labia) meet. It swells, enlarges, and hardens when a woman is aroused. Pay attention to stimulating it, because is has even more nerve endings (and hence sensitivity) than a man's entire penis.

The G-spot is a little circular area about two inches inside the vagina on the front vaginal wall. When it is stimulated, it swells into a big bump.

The deep spot, sometimes called the A-spot is deep inside at the top of the vagina near the beginning of the cervix. It is actually two spots:
1) towards the front vaginal wall, and
2) towards the back vaginall wall.

The beginning of the cervix is in the middle. As a simple model, if you're looking from the side of the body, imagine the inside of the vagina as a "Y." The deep spot is along the left and right branches (i.e. towards the front and towards the back) of the Y, but not in the middle. Note that the deep spot is stimulated by firm pressure.

IMORTANT: Remember to pay attention to her responses, her breathing, and her body movements to determine if she's getting more and more aroused. If it's working, keep doing it!

Remember to keep in mind The ABCs of Pleasuring Your Wife as you stimulate those 3 orgasm zones.

So, why should you know about these 3 orgasm zones? Well, now you can see that your ability to stimulate them will depend on your positioning.

So whichever of the couples making love positions you choose, focus on stimulating those three zones.

How To Handle The Basic Problems Of Married Life?

2009-08-19T21:20:00.000-07:00

The problems of a married life are almost similar since the married life is associated with two persons.

One can always try and understand the basic reasons behind these problems. The basic reasons are the same, the patterns are different. One can easily find natural solutions if they manage to understand the root cause behind the problems.

You must take charge in a relationship

The problems associated with married life can be solved by both the partners. In some cases the initiative of the husband works out well enough and in some cases the wife must take the initiative. The overall objective is simple; one can easily solve marriage problems without the involvement of third parties. There is no need of friends, relatives or counselors to find a solution.

The wife always reciprocates what the husband says or what the husband shows through his behavior. In the same manner the husband must behave in a manner which would force the wife into reciprocating; things should be put up in a way which would suggest that everything is in the hands of the husband.

The emotional side of a wife must be taken into consideration.

All the problems related to a happy married life are not associated with logic and one cannot find logic in everything. The logical part has to be removed at times and such problems have to be dealt emotionally. The emotional part must always be taken into consideration.

The right emotional spark must be there in the husband which would trigger a similar spark in the wife’s mind. Getting that spark is extremely important since the emotional spark helps in solving many problems. Generally problems arise due to reasons which have less logic and more of emotions.

Attraction between the wife and the husband would be developed once the emotional spark is prevalent. This helps in developing a factor of trust. The emotional encouragement should be positive so that the wife feels secured and can trust the husband more. The emotional encouragement should not repel the wife in any particular way; otherwise the essence of their relationship would be spoiled. Satisfaction is the name of the game in any relationship and this game can be won easily by pressing the right buttons at the right time.

The right emotional triggers give the best results.

The right emotional buttons when pressed at the right time gives results which are highly beneficial for the relationship. In many instances the husbands complain that their wives are not getting attracted towards them and they do not want to have sex. The wife feels low all the time and bondage simply disappears. In such cases the emotional requirements have to be fulfilled first. This in turn would help in solving many problems. The right attraction between the husband and the wife can be maintained when there is a lot of emotional bondage between the two. The right emotional bondage gives the right results and also helps in giving the relationship a long term authentication.

Various Reasons For Failure Of Marriage Especially In Men

2009-08-19T21:13:00.000-07:00

The concept of a failed marriage has to be explained before making any suggestions on failed marriages. It is simply the case when a wife loses interest on her husband and becomes indifferent. She no longer feels attracted and reacts in various ways. One of the most common methods of reacting is by cheating on the partner or may just leave her husband. The nature of expression and the extent to which the wife goes depends on the situation but in any way the marriage is falling apart. One can avoid this kind of a situation by taking care of certain factors. There are 3 biggest factors due to which marriages fall apart. If those factors are taken care of then the there are chances that the marriage will not fall apart.

Marriages fail for men due to Ego problem: This is a major issue which creates problems in marriages and is a major reason for which marriages fall apart. This is a major problem and if this problem is handled properly and taken care of well then there are chances that the marriage will last in peace.

There will be no further problems and a person would not need any further information on the reasons which break a marriage into pieces. Once this is taken care of then other problems will not creep in.

The ego is responsible for many ill feelings and grudges. Ego holds back these grudges. Ego is a factor because of which you lose your cool often. When ego is removed then this concept becomes very easy. Ego prevents a person from becoming a better husband and forces him to do things which would be harmful to the relationship. The ego problems often force a person to avoid various issues which can be solved otherwise. The ego problems can lead to broken relationship.

Marriages fail because of blame: It is a factor which forces many marriages to fail. There are many instances where men blame their wives and then they hold their wives responsible for the problems in marriage. Their married lives revolve around a single subject and that becomes blame.

Men must understand that their wives are not the problem in their marriages. It is them because of which all the problems arise. Men must understand that it is because of men that the wives adopt different behaviors. One must treat his wife with love and affection that forces her to reciprocate the same.

Marriages fail due to the logic factor: Men must understand that the logic factor cannot be brought into play every time and hence one cannot really ask for logic. A wife’s behavior cannot be justified with logic and one should not make her understand with logic. Men must try and understand the emotional arena of women. Their failure to recognize a woman’s emotions men have failed marriages.

Which Of These 3 Unfaithful Cheating Wife Signs Are Appearing In YOUR Marriage?

2009-08-06T02:21:00.000-07:00

If it's been bothering you and you're wondering about unfaithful cheating wife signs, first let me ask you the following questions:

Has your wife ever seemed bored with you? Have you ever felt your wife disrespects you? Has your wife ever complained that you’re emotionally unavailable or distant?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, your wife may be feeling the typical emotions of women who cheat.

Before you continue reading, ask yourself, “Why am I here?”

If the answer is, I need to to know all the possible unfaithful cheating wife signs, so I can catch my cheating wife, then I have to remind you that this site is about how to achieve a happy marriage. But the goal of “busting your wife” is a recipe for continued misery.

Catching her and proving how bad she is, and what a victim you are doesn’t solve the problem.

No, man! Only if you determine the real problem and do something about it can you solve the problem and have a happy marriage.

You haven’t solved the problem yet because you haven't yet figured out the real problem. And you need to focus on the real problem.

But What If You Knew The REAL Problem?

Would you rather spend your life focused on studying unfaithful cheating wife signs and maybe even catch your wife cheating...or would you rather get to the point where you never again worry about her cheating, because she adores you so much that her cheating is just an impossibility?

Consider changing the way you look at the whole issue of unfaithful cheating wife signs. Instead of trying to discover the signs that a woman is cheating, I will show you the signs of men that women cheat on.

What you really need to know are the unfaithful cheating wife signs present in you, not her.

What does that mean? That means that there are certain kinds of men that wives tend to cheat on. Wouldn't you wanna know the types of husbands that wives cheat on, just in case you are one?

The 3 Kinds of Husbands That Women Cheat On:

Husband-Type #1: The Bore.

This is a man who has little appeal. He lacks passion in his own life, and he doesn’t bring passion to his life or to his wife’s. And he doesn’t make his wife feel good about herself.

He may find his wife indicating that an office colleague of hers “makes me feel better about myself.” Or he may find her showing little emotion and having little expression on her face.

If these unfaithful cheating wife signs describe you, then you need to develop more appeal, by incorporating more pleasure and passion in your life and in your wife’s.

In your own life, get more involved in activities you love, for example a hobby or sport.

In your marriage, you could start by romancing your wife more.

So that's sign #1 of the 3 unfaithful cheating wife signs: that her husband is a bore.

Husband-Type #2: The Chump.

This is a man who lacks dominance. He doesn’t have a lot of control over his life and is not “alpha.” He’s not a leader. He’s not strong.

He may find his wife disrespecting him, despising him, or walking all over him, rolling her eyes when he speaks, calling him a “loser,” and so on. At the same time, she may esteem or respect some other man or men.

If these unfaithful cheating wife signs describe you, then you need to develop more dominance. Start by ensuring your life is filled with purpose. Learn your life purpose as a man, learn how to set and achieve goals.

Take control of your life and of your interaction with your wife.

Lead! Lead! Lead! Don’t be a follower, especially a follower of your wife. You will have to step on some toes sometimes, including your wife’s. But to establish the dominance in your life that your wife needs to respect you, you’re gonna have to do it. So be courageous and get used to stepping up as a man.

So that's sign #2 of the 3 unfaithful cheating wife signs: that her husband is a chump.

Husband-Type #3: The Jerk.

This is a man who hasn’t maintained intimacy. He doesn’t give his wife enough attention, and he hasn’t built a strong connection with her. He may be distant and disinterested, or may be outright cruel.

He may find his wife feeling lonely. She may express her loneliness to him by complaining that he’s “emotionally unavailable.” He may find his wife desperately trying to connect with him or get noticed by him, even if it’s by lashing out at him or acting outrageous.

If these unfaithful cheating wife signs describe you, you need to build more intimacy with your wife. You can do this by showing her she’s loved.

If she needs to be touched, touch her.

If she needs a thoughtful gift, get her one.

(No, not a drill, dude! Here’s a pretty easy one: if she likes flowers—and what girl doesn’t—get her flowers! But put some thought into it: learn what flowers she likes, what colours she likes. Give it some attention. Get the florist’s help if you have to. But put care and attention into it. And please don’t tell me you feel gay picking out flowers. You’re masculine enough that you can get away with it.)

If she needs compliments, give them to her. And again, give it some attention. Look her deep in the eyes (don’t break eye contact) and tell her something you actually appreciate about her.

If she needs something done for her, do it without her telling you to. Clear the snow off her car when she’s not expecting it. She’ll feel loved and cared for.

If she needs your time, make time for her.

Different women have slightly different needs (although they have many similarities), so pay attention to your wife’s particular.

And that’s the secret: pay attention, man!

Finally, please don’t do any of the below intimacy-smashers. (If they're present in your marriage, then consider them strong unfaithful cheating wife signs--if not now, then in the future.)

1) Hurl personal criticisms at her, by saying stuff like, “Why are you always such a (fill in the blank)?!”

2) Get all defensive when she says stuff you disagree with. Just stay present with her and try to appreciate where she’s coming from.

3) Be snide or insulting with her, by rolling your eyes when she’s arguing with you, taking “low blows” at her, and stuff like that.

4) Shut her out, especially when emotions are getting really heated. There’s probably nothing that distances her from you more than this. When you think to yourself, “I’m not dealing with this crap!” and you want to walk away from her or just ignore her, try to stay present with, even if you find it damn tough.

Otherwise, you’ll find your wife feeling alienated from you, and you might end up finding her finding that companionship with some other guy—I hate saying that—when she really wanted it with you.

Okay, so you came here looking for the signs of an unfaithful, cheating wife in her. But now you can recognize the signs in yourself that may lead you to have an unfaithful, cheating wife.

If any of those signs are present in you, then get rid of them. Re-read this article, because there’s a lot in it.

Read other articles on this site, cuz in other articles I reinforce the concepts I explained here and I sometimes go into more detail.

The idea of a wife cheating on her husband repulses me and really makes my blood boil. It’s something that disgusts me on a personal level and also on a moral level. But I’m not here to lecture the women.

If I were speaking to wives, my advice would be different, but I’m speaking to you, a fellow husband. And you only have control over your own self. So take charge of your own life. Your wife will naturally follow…or you might decide she’s not the right woman for you.

Regardless, if you apply the advice I’ve given you here, you’ll naturally find yourself in a happy marriage and not busied learning how to bust your wife cheating, and studying stuff like unfaithful cheating wife signs.

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2009-07-22T02:35:00.000-07:00

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